Don’t give your self away for money or security. There is no security in this world, and the pursuit of security or wealth will lead you into slavery to things, the trap of seeking power over others, and meaninglessness. Live for now…not for tomorrow.
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Forget the past and don’t get trapped there. Living in the past only holds one in pain and excuses for why one didn’t get what one needed. All a person has is right now. Don’t waste time blaming others or regretting the past. Do what you want and like to do now, or else you just may lose the chance to do that too.
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Don’t live for tomorrow either. Living in want now because you don’t have something you may never have means you miss living the life you have now in the best way.
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Don’t count on a job to give your life meaning. Live your dream right here and find meaning in that.
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There is pleasure and beauty in the life you’ve got. Find that beauty and live right there in that spot.
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Live close to your own basic needs–your instinctual nature–and avoid repressing or labeling that nature as “evil.” Stop all repressing of natural hunger needs, sexuality, the impulse to action, or reflection, and challenge all taboos dealing with these instinctual needs. Psychological wellness comes when we live according to our basic nature as human animals.
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The pleasure of being who you really are is its own reward.
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Self-expression, speaking your own truth, is its own reward. Don’t expect others to agree with you or accept what you say. Just speak your truth and move on.
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If you do have a creative interest, don’t sully its value by turning it into a business. Be creative for its own sake. Do what you want rather than what the “marketplace” or some expert thinks you ought to do. The opportunity to be creative is its own reward too.
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Living the life you have is also its own reward. Don’t waste it doing anything you don’t want or need. Most people spend their entire lives doing “what they have to” and never ever do what they want to. Your mother will be disappointed in you, and your siblings will tell everyone that you never amounted to anything. You get to wear a smartass grin every time they start up on you because you’ll know that you are the only one in the family who ever did what they wanted to.
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Don’t expect others to meet your needs. They’re interested in their own needs. You can become manipulative and keep them on the hook, but that really uses up a lot of energy and makes enemies.
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Don’t expect others to be who you need. You be who you need.
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Don’t have ideals of others. They’ll only disappoint you. Or cheat you. Common sense is a better guide in judging others than idealism. Trust yourself first.
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Don’t expect appreciation from others for what you do for them. Do what you want. If you enjoy certain others, then do for them because you appreciate them. Their company is the only reward you can expect for that.
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Base what you do for others on the love you feel for them; never on what you get back from them. This is what unconditional love is.
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Growing up is the best we can expect out of life. If we miss the chance to do that, we die without understanding what life was all about. Life will teach us how to live if we but pay attention. Emotional pain means we’re doing something wrong. Wake up to what we’re doing that is causing the pain and stop doing that.
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You can’t avoid emotional pain, no matter what you do. So live with it.
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Whatever you choose has an opportunity cost.
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Choose to be happy with the life you’ve got.
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Don’t give yourself away for love or relationship. When you do, its for naught. A person who “needs” another to feel complete is asking to be controlled by the other or used.
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Live by your own moral standards or conscience. But don’t judge another’s morals. Don’t buy the Brooklyn Bridge from them either.
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Accept people just the way they are. But you don’t have to like them or live with them. Spend your time with those you like.
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Don’t be a follower. A lot of people follow others into trouble. Cut your own path and live with it.
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Try to ignore those who reject you or criticize you. You can ignore and criticize them back if you want, but it usually takes more energy than its worth. If others’ views hurts, it usually means you have too much self-importance or self-pity. Let go of trying to satisfy others.
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Don’t do things for recognition or the approval of others. Its just another form of giving ones self away and leads to your being controlled and used. Individuality is more important than conformity.
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Don’t give yourself away for acceptance by others. You lose your right to be yourself and lose your individuality. The price is just too high. Choose freedom or your self.
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Relationships provide a testing ground and a mirror for us all. We learn who we are in relationships. We recognize our natures in those we like (or dislike). Our awareness is “purified” through relationship. We learn to love another in relationship as well as about our own nature as a human being.
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Good relationships require healthy boundaries, just as “good neighbors are made by good fences.” Maintain good boundaries for your selves. Meet your own needs first. Love yourself and take care of your own wellness. Except for those who are unable to take care of themselves, take care of our own needs.
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Be aware when you have personal needs that lead you into “serving others” in ways that are really a subtle form of manipulation. We all encounter people who want us to tell them answers to their pressing problems. It is all too easy to fill that void in their lives where we constantly find ourselves meeting with or filling friendship needs for others in pain. In effect, we open our boundaries and let them step inside. It is their pain that drives them to accept realistic answers. Most people refuse the obvious answers and excuse their behaviors because they can’t let go of their compulsions. Their solutions will come when they let go of their unrealistic attachments. Until they do, outside advice will never “stick.” Don’t get caught up in counseling or advising others who are not able to take responsibility for themselves or release their own compulsions. They are here to learn this and have to do their own work.
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Live simply. Avoid duty or responsibility for others whenever you can, but be loyal to those who you care for. Don’t rescue others. Let them meet their own needs.
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Choose freedom. It sometimes means you live alone, but that’s the price.
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Do something with your freedom. Enjoy it. That’s what you worked for.
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Life’s stability is constantly challenged through loss. Surrender to the losses life brings, as well as enjoying the wins. Move and flow with life as it comes and goes. Stay present. Avoid too much dogmatic logic in dealing with life’s need. Allow spontaneity and playfulness into your responses to life.
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Life is lived through the body. One feels their life through bodily sensation. Allow sensation to guide your responses and lifestyle. Allow pleasure in the body to have a major role in determining our lifestyles. A life lived through the mind along is a deadening experience.
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Act without regard to outcomes.
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The purpose of life’s will is to free you to be your own person. In that regard, the pursuit of power, power over others, power through wealth, or warriorship can draw one off into pursuits that bind one into karmic relationships and impose heavy burdens upon us to work off the harm we’ve done to others.Such forms of power all stem from fear of life. Those who have rid themselves of the fear of life or death quickly grow bored with the burden of responsibility and choose freedom. The higher expression of a person’s power is to free ones self from society’s programming and demands that he conform to its will. This conformity binds one to the karmic intention of its leaders and those who manipulate policy for their own ends. Work towards freeing yourself from society’s values, society’s rules, society’s moral standards, nationalism, economic ideologies, religious fanaticism, and all forms of compulsion or conformity. Be your own person. Stand alone where necessary to become your own personhood and live from your own center. You will discover that you have become powerful.
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A time will come when personal will collapses and you feel few needs for anything beyond the basics of life. Then will come wellness, peace, stability. Then, if you are like me, you will hear the command to take command of life’s will. Be well with this. You are now Him of Love. Feeling few needs, life will move from day to day with a feeling of changelessness. You are now to operate through Will rather than through personal needs. To be in this world is all there is now. Go out into the world without needs or interests to guide you, wandering or cycling into all there is. You yourself bring change without doing anything. Your presence will catalyze others.